|As a rule of thumb, there are usually only four key
speakers who offer
toasts at the reception. Here is the traditional order of toasts
|THE FIRST to speak is the bride's father, or the
or a close friend of the couple. The toast is 'The Happy Couple'. It is
customary for this speech to contain compliments about the bride and
some words of wisdom on marriage, and amusing anecdotes about the
|THE BRIDEGROOM then replies on behalf of himself
and his new
wife. Tradition demands that somewhere in the first sentence he used
words which all guests are waiting for... 'on behalf of myself and my
His speech can be brief but should include the following points:
Remember the term 'bridesmaid' refers to an unmarried
It's a matron of honour if the lady is married.
- To thank the first speaker
- To thank the guests, perhaps mentioning by name any
who have travelled
from far away.
- To thank them for their gifts and best wishes
- To thank, above all his new parents-in-law for the
wedding, and of course,
for their daughter
- To thank his own parents
- And finally to thank the bridesmaids and ushers and
to propose the toast
|THE BEST MAN replies on behalf of the
attendants. He ends
his speech with a special word of thanks to the parents of the bride as
hosts, and proposes the toast 'The health of all four parents'. The
man then goes on to read the greetings and messages which have been
at the Hotel.
|THE BRIDE'S FATHER may then wish to say a few
words if he has
not already spoken, thanking everyone for coming to his daughter's
and hoping that they will enjoy the rest of the celebrations.
|BEWARE - jokes that went down well with the lads
on the stag
night could well upset the minister and a few elderly aunts. So
what you say!